Five Things Holding Us Back from Success

One of the best decisions I ever made was to make being a trainer my career focus. It wasn't easy though, letting go of my worries about people's view of me: risking being assumed into the under-educated Certified quack crowd, solely committing myself to a field that some people only do as their 'side job,' or choosing a career where women's femininity can be questioned, And my most recent concern, becoming an non-business major, introvert, fitness entrepreneur. 

Now that's scary

And it still is. 

Maybe it always will be, but I've decided that between school drop-off and pick-ups, I'm going to start working my way out of this tough, stuck spot. Don't worry;

"I'm not scared to do something about it. I'm just too darn busy to make a change."

Does that phrase strike a cord with anyone? For me, it could be the theme to my adult life. Always too busy. Always multitasking and feeling like I never get anything done! 

Well, luckily I don't think I'm the only one. Here are five things (including "too busy") that may be stopping you from getting those "I wish" goals started, or even tougher, completed. 

1. There's NO TIME. I know that feeling. Sometimes we fill our schedules - and our kids' schedules - with so much "enrichment" that we have little unstructured time that when we do have nothing we have to do, we do nothing (internet browsing, tv watching). This is the most important time of your day: use that potentially nothing time to prioritizing your goals. You have to make time to grow. Leo Babauta, author of "The Power of Less," suggests writing out your three Most Important Tasks each morning, and spending time on them first thing. Even if you're just spending 20 minutes, you'll be inching toward your goal a little bit each day. 

2. The to-do list is too long. 
After listing to Brigid Schulte describe the life she was leading, and how our culture and policies are constructed, I know that I'm not alone. None of us will ever reach the bottom of our to-do list unless we make time for what is most important to us. Prioritize your work and play time. 
Here's a straightforward way: Babauta also suggests making a list of everything you want to do, including personal goals, household projects, work, family. From that list you choose your Top 3, and work on them until they're done. When you've accomplished all three, then you can choose the next three goals. 
Another suggestion: outsource the to-do list. Don't lay it all on yourself (we women are especially good at this). Use the people around you to help you out. There is a service that allows you to outsource just about anything, called Task Rabbit. It's an online service that connects TaskPosters and TaskRabbits. TaskRabbits can do your shopping, pick-up things, cleaning, handy work, and virtual tasks as well. The idea is to out-source as much "anyone can do it" task as you can, so you can stick to doing the things that you're best at (and that hopefully make lots of money so you can keep paying your TaskRabbits).

3. I don't know where to begin anyway. This is a great excuse, because it's probably not an excuse! When most of us get stuck on a major issue, it's usually because we don't have the tools to solve the problem. Most of the time, we stay stuck on some part of our lives, and mean to get un-stuck, and we want to get un-stuck, but we don't. That's when it's time to either (1) consult and expert, or (2), make solving this problem a daily Most Important Task until we start making progress on it. 

4. I want more than I think I'm capable of. Assess what you want to do versus what you think you can do. Someone may say, yeah, I totally want to lose 13 pounds before my high school reunion, and then when you ask them what they think they can lose, they say "Maybe 5 pounds." This is more about commitment than technique. People want the success they see others getting, but do you see the work they did to get there? Probably not. 

5. I just can't do it. Self-doubt is so common. I think it keeps more people from their dreams than we realize. The solution to this: find others like you. Share your stories and see how common your feelings are. Just knowing that you're not the only one in this situation can be very powerful to your outlook on your goal.

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